Organization
Anyone want to come organize my life for me? I can't seem to do it and Bubba just doesn't care. I have issues. I can't seem to be the nice little wifey that I feel I need to be (again, Bubba doesn't care....at least he says he doesn't), go to school and get everything done in a "timely manner" and work a whopping 20-25 hrs. a week. I know I'm whining and it doesn't seem like much to most people. But, again I'm a bit overwhelmed. I can't remember the last meal I made for Bubba, the laundry gets done every two weeks (only cuz I'm outta underwear at that point) and we won't even get into what the rest of my house looks like. I have ZERO motivation to do anything. I procrastinate all of my school work and it will not pay off this month. Sooo much due this month at school. If I'm not at school, I'm at work. I get home every night during the week by about 10:30-11:00pm. And then I'm tired or I just need to zone out and not think about anything. I've posted about this before...it seems like around my last melt down at the end of last semester. What do I think I'm gonna do when we get a baby? Am I automatically going to morf into the "organized mommy" and trick everyone that I've got my shit together? Cuz, I don't think so. Bubba helps when I need him, but to be honest I don't like the way he does laundry....and laundry is my nemesis. So, ideas anyone? How do you mommy's do it? How do you keep it together, yourself together, your house together etc? You must comment this time cuz I'm a screming out for advice.
posted @8:16 PM
10 Comments:
What the hell gives you the impression we've got anything together? You need ice cream or a margarita and I'm up for either. CALL ME! I will even clean your house.
Prozac? Not even that seems to help my organizing deficiencies and my lack of motivation.
My life is so unorganized! My house is a constant disaster. The stress level around here is out of control!
Let me know if you figure this one out!
FYI: (Jenna is the master organizer!!!)
You have your good days where you pat yourself on the back and hope it makes up for the mostly crazy days. You tell yourself everyone only seems together and try to actually believe it. As I'm typing both of my kids are crying...way past bed time and I'm trying to not go in again. We can only do our best, love our family, keep ourselves sane, have some fun so you don't feel like jumping off a cliff. No one is Martha. Just be you...you're incredible with at least a handful of girls down here who wish they were more like you. Bubba says what he means. If he says he's not sweating the small stuff, I'd believe him.
Anybody who tricks you into thinking they've got their "crap" together is totally lying. They may have it together for a couple of hours, maybe a day. But other than that, nope. I'm not buying it. As I type this I've got "handwash" dishes in the sink from Sunday! (That's my stupid rule of not putting my pots and pans in the dishwasher, so they wait for me to hand wash them). Today is the first day I cooked since then, too. That was 4 days ago! My house always looks like a bomb went off inside, unless I know people are coming over...when I switch into mad-crazy-cleaning woman. We all have our issues. The trick is to know that you can't be everything to everyone all the time. You just do what you can do... that day. What's number one on the list? Hopefully soon your list will have "take care of baby" at number one. Whatever is number two will have to wait. And don't worry, number 2 (or 3 or 4) will always be there when you get to it. It's not like anyone else is gonna do it!:) Please don't be too hard on yourself..... you're awesome! I'd be proud to do half of what you do and be half of what you are. Love you!
lisa thinks i am the master organizer because she has seen all the bins and tubs in my cupboards and closets... and i LOVE labels. i even have labels on our laundry sorter just in case mike forgets...(you must remember my ocd tendencies!) but to be honest, i am only as organized as my life lets me be at the moment... and cramming four people and a hundred pound dog in a 1400 sq ft house will usually do the trick ;) my mom always said she wished she could have let the house get a little messier and spent less time worring about it... i think those are words to live by... maybe you're just a tad ahead of the game! btw... what makes you think moms have it together? sometimes i feel just plain lucky to get a shower! xoxo
I don't go to school and I don't work and my laundry has not been "completely" done and put away for months! I have dishes piled everywhere. I think I'm getting lazier and lazier as I get older! Remind me to tell you a story about laundry and one of our family members in person...it's pretty funny!
I have my good "day" and lots of lazy, bad days, in between, oh well!! Life goes on! If Shaun get's worried about it (which is rare) he'll do what he needs in order to stay sane. Brad would do the same if it really did bother him. Don't beat yourself up! You have enough going on!!
As someone who was officially voted "Most organized" by a large group of peers, let me tell you something... Organization is a figment of the imagination. I am in NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM organized, but somehow people seem to think I'm on top of it.
The truth is, I'm totally not.
And even though I am a compulsive cleaner, and things are fastidiously maintained in the event of company, the fact is that I too wait until I'm out of underwear before doing laundry... (And I'm not above going commando for an extra day or two until I find the time to run a load!)
I simply swear by my mother's motto: Stop, take a deep breath and tackle things one at a time starting with the most important, and remember that in 5 months or 5 years, it's not going to matter that you hadn't scoured the shower stall, or done the dishes for a week. What matters is that those around you (your husband, and soon enough, your child) will know that you cared enough to put the small tasks off long enough to spend time with them and SHOW them that you love them.
Here endeth my novel of a comment.
Let me give you a paddle, we are all in the same boat just diffrent lakes. No one has it together and when the baby comes even more falls apart. All that matters is the love you give. Who cares what isnt's getting done because it is never finished. You are wonderful.
Amen to all the other comments!!!!
organized? somedays are better than others. It may look to the outside world that my house is clean and organized--just don't open the 2 closets we have down stairs.
good luck with whatever you find that works for you. I have a spouse who MAKES me be organized.
It's a struggle we've had our whole marriage.
At the end of the day when I am dropping my clothes on the floor--he is right behind me picking them up. Aaah...the fights we had in the new days of marriage over that one.
Sorry Holly! Like you're not busy enough...you've been tagged. I know, I know. I suck.
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