Why Can't We All Just Get Along???
Sometimes I don't understand us crazy women. You would think that we are all grown ups...so why can't we just play nice. I have 4 sisters, 3 amazing sister in laws and a gazillion girlfriends who I 100% absolutely ADORE!! Basically, what I'm saying is.....I know chicks. I know we're all crazy. And, if you don't think you are...YOU ARE!! It's a good crazy, don't get me wrong. Today I was thinking that next month will be my very first Mother's Day. I know I didn't come across motherhood in the conventional way, but none the less, I am a Mother. What I don't understand and the reason for this post is.....why are there women out there that think just because you can get pregnant, that is the ONLY way for a woman to be a mother? I'm sure I don't need to remind everyone how I feel about this idiotic way of thinking. So, instead of going on one of my crazy tangents again....why can't us crazy women just get along? Why do we feel the need to continue to judge one another? We all know how difficult it is to be a mother....why does is matter how one came across motherhood...whether it was adoption, being a step mother, a foster mother etc etc.? Why do we have to beat each other up and tear each other down? Why can't we stop and think before we speak? Why can't we be more sensitive to one another's situations? I am just as guilty as everyone else on the judging, the "no filter on my mouth" sydrome, insensitivity etc. etc. I guess all of my mindless rambling comes down to this question: Why does it matter HOW you became a Mother? Seriously, does it really matter? In the long scheme of things, does it matter?
posted @10:58 PM
13 Comments:
It doesn't matter and I am surprised that someone would tell you otherwise. That is ignorance. People amaze me everyday with their stupidity. It's a wonder that some people actually get along in this world thinking the way they do.
My thought is that you are a MOTHER!! You know it and the cutiest boy in the whole world knows it. Happy 1st Mothers Day! I know it has been a long awaited holiday to celebrate and I hope you really celebrate it. Love, Tiffany
I kinda think of both you and bubba as mothers... he's kinda soft that way... and squishy. I like to think of him as bubba bear
Hey- I found ya! I need your new address to send you a card from YW- they miss you! We all do, but it was good to see you Sunday. Come back and visit often! Anyway, email your new address to me so I can send this, ok? Love,Suzy p.s. Not sure where are these women who talk to you like that- are you meeting some crazy women down there? Most people I know realize it doesn't matter how our kids come into our lives, we are all moms. Some just don't think before they speak, maybe, ....sometimes I have that problem, too. Or others may have limited experience. Be grateful for your experience and the ability to help others in similar circumstances. You are very blessed! Anyway, Happy Mom's day soon! Exciting!
There are defintely some way stupid people out there. I think that just being a woman should make you sensitive to the whole motherhood thing. Even if someone never has kids of their own, they influence the mothering of neices,nephews, neighbors, etc. It takes more than one "mother" in a child's life in order to get through. Think about it... how many "mother" figures did we have growing up? And as for women competing with each other all the time... I just don't get it. We all need to realize that everyone is doing the best they can with what they were dealt...and just back off!...and be supportive. You have hit one of my hugest pet peeves....can you tell? I can't even get my thoughts out clearly!
Mmmmmmuah!!!!! and one for Grady. :)
OK, seriously what the crap are these people thinking? A mother is a mother no matter how it comes about. Personally I think you are a better Mom then some because of the trials you went through to become a mother, not that others aren't, but seriously wishing, wanting, waiting and then finally getting your precious Grady Bear makes you want to be the best Mom ever. Screw eveyone else that thinks differently!! You are a Mother!
Hi Holly-
I hear you on the "why-can't-we-just-all-get-along." All I know is that I found the greatest group of women in the church, and it's such a shame to see that even still contention sneaks in the back door sometimes. I think women can tend to act like rats in a box- we pull each other down so we can get to the top. Wouldn't it be so much easier if we could say, "Here, hop on my back, I'll lift you up and meet you at the top." We're all headed in the same direction anyways! As far as anyone making you feel like getting pregnant is the only way to become a mother- I wouldn't give that thought one bit of credit. One final thing- I don't think we intentionally hurt each other, I think we do it out of insecurity. Have a very happy first Mother's Day.
AMEN.
I am an adult adoptee
and I am a mother
I hope your first mother's day ROCKS!
I hope Brad and Grady spoil you this Mother's Day and always!
it doesn't matter!
We are SO coming to visit you while we are in Newport!!! We will be there June 12-19. I would LOVE to meet you...I think with an attitude like yours we could be best friends! :) got room for one more CRAZY chick in your life?
Well all I can say is to hell with anyone who would think/say/act anyway other than you are OF COURSE a mom...and the truth is you were one before Grady even came into your life...you do not have to "give birth" to be a mom...hundreds of a-holes give birth everyday and half of them AREN'T moms!!
I hope you have a wonderful MOTHERS day...because all REAL moms deserve it!
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